I’m a man first. Before my title, job, career, or status, I’m a man. Many men don’t have that kind of assurance anymore. There is a great number of men that passively declare man-hood or they don’t claim it all. An even greater travesty is that kind of passivity gets passed along to future generations. In much of our society, women influence the thinking of our men. However, there are just some things that women can’t teach men. I know this kind of rhetoric seems a bit antiquated, even Neanderthal to some, but hear me out. This is not to discredit, nor to take a swing at, all of the strong single mothers who have raised boys who found their place in this world as decent men. However, even those decent men who were reared in this kind of family structure, were more than likely impacted by the presence and influence of some man. It could be a brother, uncle, coach, pastor, teacher, or community leader—but somewhere along the way, young men have the experience of being guided, whether actively or simply from impressions, by an older and wiser man. In his book Wild at Heart, writer and speaker John Eldredge writes, “Masculinity is bestowed. A boy learns who he is and what he’s got from a man, or the company of men. He cannot learn it any other place. He cannot learn it from other boys, and he cannot learn it from the world of women.
The plan from the beginning of time was that his father would lay the foundation for a young boy’s heart and pass on to him that essential knowledge and confidence in his strength” (2001). The issue with today’s culture is that we have been made to believe that manhood and everything about it is no big deal. With the recent rise of strong and independent women, the attempt to redefine marriage, alternative reproduction options, and the LBGT agenda, we are looking at a watered-down idea of modern manhood. I agree with pastor and motivational speaker Tony Evans’s assessment that, “society and the feminists have taken away men’s leadership role, and they won’t give it back to us” (No More Excuses 1996).